When you become an egg donor, you will need to write a goodwill letter to be read at a later date by the donor-conceived child and their parents. Finding the words to write a letter of any sort can be difficult, but to create a goodwill message for a young adult to read so far into the future can be a tough one.
At 16 a donor-conceived child can ask for non-identifying information about you and at 18, for identifying information. This is great – but we all remember being a teenager and can imagine them wanting to get a feel for what kind of person you are, rather than just your vital statistics.
However, help is at hand as we have this amazing letter sent to us by someone who has recently donated, which we’re sure will give you inspiration and, at the very least, a starting point on the blank page. Here it is:
“I don’t know how you’re supposed to start a letter to someone you’ve never met so I guess I’ll just begin.
I hope your life so far has been everything you could possibly imagine so far and all your birthdays have been extraordinary, especially your 18th!
I am writing this almost 19 years ago! It’s a very strange but amazing feeling to know that I could help your mum and dad achieve what they wanted the most, you. I know that they love you so much and would give you everything they own if you needed it. I am sure that you are an extraordinary young person, and so privileged to have such courageous parents who have gone to such lengths to bless you with the love and support you have been given.
I suppose I should tell you why I made the decision to donate my eggs to complete strangers. Well, I have witnessed first-hand the heartbreak a couple goes through when they need help in getting pregnant. Whilst writing this, my sister and brother-in-law are expecting their first child after 4 rounds of IVF. That is my main reason for doing this, but also when I think about the joy your parents will be feeling now, knowing they are being given the chance of a child, and will feel when you arrive in the world, it seems like such a small thing to do for such a massive reward.
If you can get personality traits from DNA, I hope you have received the courage, strength and unwillingness to ever give up from my mum’s side of the family, and also from your parents. I wish you all the best in your life, and if you, your mum or dad ever need anything from me I will be happy to help in any way I can. That also goes for if any of you ever want to contact me.”
So, we hope that this gives you some ideas that help you compose your goodwill letter.