contact with recipient

[calestParticipant]

hi, im just wondering hw much contact have you guys had with your recipients? im fairly early on with the process i have been on the list nearly a year but now found a match and have my first appointment next week, which is really exciting. so far i know a few basic details about the lady im donating too but just wondering on average how much do we find out or have contact with our recipients? i noticed some of you have had flowers or cards or emails off them is this common?

xx

[Chanice-MarieParticipant]

Hi again Calest.

With regards to the cards, flowers, gifts etc this is the recipients descrection if they choose to do this and why wouldn’t they the gift your giving them is pricessless, whether it’s successful or not.

I requested an email from my reciepient though because I needed to know that this family appreciated what I was doing and from the email which made me cry for quite a while they clearly did!

With Alturi you can choose who you donate to and have like a check list of what sort of family you wanted and I requested childless, married, youngish and preferably a christain couple and Alison met my criteria to a tee!!

It’s all down to the family hun what contact they have but it is very much annomyus.

Chanice x

[calestParticipant]

thanks hun, thats made it a lot clearer for me. i think i would like an email from my recipient too id like to know as much as shes willing to tell me about herself, but i understand if shes not comfortable in doing so. i have said ill help anyone and i know this lady is single and has similar medical background to myself but thats all so far. i just think if a woman is willing to put herself through all this to have a child then that child will be so precious to them and so loved that this makes me happy to do it. but i suppose everyone is curious to know more xx

[Chanice-MarieParticipant]

Exactly, the family I donated too I didn’t know much about but I needed to hear one phrase from her and that was ‘unconditional love’ and I knew from that point that she was the one I was going to help!

Ask Alison to ask her she’s brilliant and I’m sure she will try her hardest babe.

xx

[calestParticipant]

thanks hun, yeah alison said she can tell me more once we have the first few appointments out the way so next time i speak to her ill ask her if i can know some more. i feel a bit akward as in my job i deal with patinet confidentiality all the time, so just felt i didnt want to put anyone in a situation with questions they arent allowed to answer, but you have helped clear things up for me a lot thanks xx

[Chanice-MarieParticipant]

Your welcome, I understand I do something similar but also I live by you don’t ask you don’t get and this would be really helpful for yout portfolio too for your children to understand why you did it too not just you.

xx

[LauraParticipant]

I don’t know anything about my recipient, if she wanted to contact me i wouldn’t mind. But to me it would be like meeting a distant relative - in that you are connected in a way but otherwise strangers and to me it wouldn’t make a difference either way. In the same way that if i were to have contact from my biological father i wouldn’t know what to say as really he is a stranger who just happens to have had a part in my creation.

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