As families celebrate Father’s Day this Sunday, we take a moment to think about all the men whose heartfelt wish is to become a dad, and who need an egg donor to help.
During egg donation treatment, the focus can rest on the woman who needs donor eggs and the egg donor herself. Sometimes the men involved can fade into the background. But it’s obvious that becoming a dad means the world to all of the men we speak to who, alongside their partner, are looking for that special egg donor to help them start a family.
One of our hopeful dads-to-be says: “I realised it meant a lot to me to have the opportunity to raise a child that my wife and I have a deep connection with, from a newborn to an adult, and share this with our families as they grow up… egg donation gives us back this possibility and I feel truly humbled that altruistic egg donation might give us the opportunity to share these experiences and allow us to build a family together.”
Another of the couples on our waiting list always knew they would need the help of an egg donor to have children but haven’t been lucky enough to find one yet. He says: “We were preparing to give up altogether when our fertility nurse pointed us to Altrui. They gave us a renewed feeling of hope by opening our eyes to all the wonderful women out there who are prepared to help couples to experience the joy of starting their own family. It’s a beautiful thing to know such kindness and we hope that we will soon find a donor.”
Women often become altruistic egg donors because they understand how much it means for a woman to become a mother, but it means just as much to all the men who are going through treatment alongside their partners, supporting them every step of the way in their journey to become a mum and dad together. Another of our dads-to-be explains in moving words what it means for him and his partner to find a donor:
As a partner, egg donation means hope.
Hope, that after the pain of five failed rounds of IVF that there is still a chance.
Hope, that my partner can move from a place of emptiness to one of fulfilment.
Hope, that as a couple we don’t have to face the acceptance of never having a child.
Hope, that we can move from being a couple to being a family.
Hope, that we can share the highs and lows of being parents.
Hope, that the love that we have can be shared with our own child.
Hope, that the kindness of a donor can turn this in to reality
There are no guarantees that egg donation will give a couple the baby they so badly want, but by becoming a donor you could give them hope and a real chance of having a family of their own.
