Donating eggs can totally change the life of a woman (or couple) who would love to be a mother but will never have the chance of having a family without the help of a donor.
However, egg donation can itself be equally life changing for some donors, who can find that the process takes her out of her comfort zone through doing something that she would never previously have considered within her ability to do.
Going through the egg donation treatment cycle can be challenging and somewhat different from ‘normal’ life, and those women who go ahead with donation can often discover such a powerful rewarding sense of achievement and worth, that they find their own life changes dramatically as a consequence. We have come across needle phobics who find that by going through the treatment and self-injecting, they completely lose their fear of needles. Others who worry about travelling, and in particular on trains, subsequently find themselves visiting friends and family all over the country. And there are donors who, up until then, haven’t felt particularly good or successful, go on to apply for (and get) new jobs, and some even start up their own businesses. With the goal of being an egg donor unwanted weight comes off and others decide that it is finally the time to stop smoking. So all in all there comes from egg donation many life changing experiences.
The great bonus to egg donation is that donors can also achieve so much personally from the experience – for most the boost to confidence, self-esteem and sense of well-being felt afterwards is so unexpected and surprising but so totally deserved. The beginning of their journey with us is involved with preparation and planning for helping others, taking one step after the next and totally focussing on giving of themselves for another’s benefit, but nothing can really prepare them for the life changing experience it often becomes.
Many recipients have themselves been through the IVF process and therefore, although it is different for them, they have an appreciation of what is asked of donors when they donate eggs. So we are frequently asked the same question: “Why do women do this?” “What motivates them?” To answer this question we went back to […]
Pre-implantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD) with egg donation enables people who have a genetic disorder to avoid passing on that gene to their children. PGD is a procedure performed in the laboratory by embryologists who test embryos created by IVF for the faulty gene and/or chromosomes. From this testing, only embryos that do not have the […]
When we started Altrui five years ago, it was our plan that we would be able to give people the very best chance of starting a family with the help of an egg donor. Most people arrive at egg donation after a long difficult journey full of heartache and disappointment, but also with hope, and […]
Last week we held our first information evening for those who were considering using donor eggs. We suspect that this was also the first event to be held in the UK where such a variety of speakers were on hand to cover every aspect of egg donation, both clinical and personal. We held it in […]
So how are you feeling about your eggs? Most women don’t even think about this, especially if we’ve already had children. Move into the world of donation, though, and you quickly notice that it can be dominated by numbers. How many follicles were there? How many eggs were collected? How many embryos developed, and how […]
The House of Lords has approved controversial IVF procedures aimed at preventing inherited mitochondrial diseases. Over the last couple of months we have heard a lot of different views regarding the use of “three-person IVF” in the UK. Some people are all for it and others against it. What about you? Yes? No? Or maybe […]
At Altrui we’ve recently started putting pregnancy and birth announcements online – it’s wonderful to share positive news and everyone who reads it feels good. But it’s got us thinking about how we can publicly celebrate donors’ amazing gift while protecting your privacy online. We follow HFEA guidelines on anonymity, meaning we only let donors […]
An Altrui egg donor explains why she can’t let anyone know she’s donating eggs For Asian women there are clear cultural attitudes about being fertile and having children, with a correspondingly large stigma attached to being infertile. It is automatically assumed that a couple will have children, which is a major milestone in any […]
There can be a mass of information to absorb going through the egg donation cycle as a donor, so to make some aspects a little easier to digest we have put together a series of short videos which go a long way towards explaining the treatment that egg donors go through. Thanks to two of […]