October 20, 2014

Videos about Egg donation

Video Library

There can be a mass of information to absorb going through the egg donation cycle as a donor, so to make some aspects a little easier to digest we have put together a series of short videos which go a long way towards explaining the treatment that egg donors go through. Thanks to two of our donors, Leanne and Hayley, along with staff at Guy’s Assisted Conception Unit, we have filmed some videos which explain various aspects of the egg donation process.

In one set of videos a senior nurse explains to an Altrui donor what the drugs are for and how to prepare them ready for use. Not all the centres we work with use the same medication in the treatment cycle, however whatever their generic name, all have the same principal function – to develop the follicles in the ovaries, to prevent them from being prematurely released and to ripen the eggs ready for fertilisation. For women thinking about becoming an egg donor, as well as donors who are actually in the treatment cycle, these short films give invaluable, accurate information.

Becoming an egg donor for an anonymous woman is a great act of kindness. For a donor, not being able to see the joy and happiness that their help can bring can be a great shame, but hearing from one of the doctors what this means for a couple, makes it very real and hits home about just how valued donors are and what a huge life changing gift this is. As one recipient put it in a letter to their donor:

“It is hard to put into words the gratitude we feel towards you. When we were told a few years ago that I had low fertility in my early thirties, it felt like my world had ended and I lost all hope of having the family I had always dreamed of. Since we found each other, you have filled me with so much hope, happiness and peace, something I thought I would never feel again…….

We will never forget you and thank you from the bottom of our hearts….”

Finally the whole process of fertilisation and what happens in the lab once the eggs have been collected is discussed by a Consultant Embryologist with an Altrui donor. Many egg donors must wonder, but never get to hear, what happens once their eggs are collected and how their gift to a couple progresses from eggs into embryos. Hearing how eggs transform into embryos and subsequently a pregnancy, sheds light on what goes on behind the scenes.


October 6, 2014

An egg donor talks about donating again, Part 2

Baby eating a heartI chose to become an egg donor for two reasons, the first reason being that my mum was adopted by the most loving couple and this was my way of saying thank you to my grandparents. And the second reason being that my little sister is unable to have kids (or so we thought).

Donating eggs for the second time:

I already told Altrui that I wanted to be an egg donor again I think a week after my first donation. The other reason I decided to become a donor for a second time was because of how smoothly my first donation went. I couldn’t help but feel I wanted to help another couple, so I called up Alison and asked if I could be an egg donor for a second time and Alison said of course, give it a bit of time and that she would be in touch.

This time the donation was at a different hospital in London. I have never met such friendly hospital staff as I did there. Everyone was saying thank you and telling me that I was an amazing person for doing this. Knowing what to expect the second time round, made it so much easier for me than the first time as there were far fewer appointments and I knew just what to expect and what to do, which always helps! Also what made it different from the first cycle was that the hospital knew how I’d react to the meds, so lots of the tests and screening that I had to go through the first time didn’t need to be repeated. So this meant it was quicker with about half the number of appointments, MUCH easier!! Taking the injections and donating a second time was like taking a walk in the park. I have to admit that I am lucky because I have never had a problem with anesthetics or needles. So an hour after I donated I left the hospital and went home and I was totally pain free like the first time. I even went to work the day after.

It was when I was going through my second cycle, that I got the news that my sister was pregnant! I was sure that this was my “reward” for helping out a second couple. Unfortunately my sister lost her baby after being 6 weeks pregnant. It absolutely broke my heart but it also encouraged me, because now we all know that my sister can get pregnant and she’s not giving up!

A couple of weeks ago I had my first consultation about being a donor for a third time and I can’t wait to start my cycle so that I can help a third couple fulfil their biggest dream. I think and hope that this cycle will be even easier than the other two. It really is so easy for me to do this and completely life changing for a couple, so why not.

I know it isn’t the same for everyone and I may have been lucky, but the sense of achievement and pride that I have from doing this will stay with me forever.


September 26, 2014

An egg donor talks about donating again, Part 1

Joy of MotherhoodI chose to become an egg donor for two reasons, the first reason being that my mum was adopted by the most loving couple and this was my way of saying thank you to my grandparents. And the second reason being that my little sister is unable to have kids (or so we thought).

First donation:

If I say that I wasn’t nervous the first time then I would be lying. But the amazing support which I received from Altrui and the staff at the hospital in London made my nerves go away. There were a lot of thoughts going through my mind, like: how is my body going to react to the injections, will the injections hurt, how will they take the eggs out and will I be in pain after I have donated?

But I was happy to discover that the injections didn’t hurt whatsoever and my body reacted to them as planned. My first cycle took around two and a half weeks from the first injection to the actual donation. When I left the hospital an hour after donating I was feeling fantastic. I thought to myself hopefully the couple will be successful. But unfortunately they weren’t the first time, but were the second time they tried as they had embryos to freeze and used these.

A lot of my friends have asked if I didn’t find it weird to give my eggs to another couple who I don’t know and never will meet. And every time I explain to them, that I want to be able to help the couple fulfil their biggest dream, which is to have a baby. And that is what makes it worth it all – that sense of having done something so important and special for someone else. I guess it was this feeling of having done something so worthwhile which got me thinking about doing it again …

Read about her second donation in our next blog


September 8, 2014

Back to school and infertility

Little boy and girl on their first day at schoolHowever reluctant we are to admit that it’s autumn now and this year’s summer has gone, there are some clear signs that time is moving on: kids are going back to school. But back to school time can be a difficult reminder for infertile couples of what they are missing out on.

Pamela says, “When I was going through infertility treatment, the beginning of another year was yet another marker of time passing. All the images that flew at me through the “Back to School” media advertising only increased the pain. All of the happy families shopping for school supplies. It was a great big reminder of yet another cycle of life of which I was not a part.”

Back to school advertising is everywhere, but it’s also a big milestone for kids that families like to celebrate and share. Naturally all these photos of special first days are posted everywhere on social media where they can be hard to avoid.

“Every year our Facebook and Instagram feeds are taken over by insanely cute children with their new school uniforms and a shiny new backpack,” says Amanda. “We see them start kindergarten, 1st Grade, 2nd Grade, and by the time we watch them start 3rd Grade we’re wondering how in the world did they grow up so fast, and has it really been four or five or six years since we started trying to have a baby of our own?”

Lots of our Altrui egg donors are already happy mums, and sharing the joys of being a parent is one of the reasons they want to donate. Now that the kids are back at school, could you make time to make a difference to people who want a family of their own?

July 28, 2014

After egg donation… then what?

Thoughtful woman copyright Rachel Sian, know the feeling? You’ve looked forward to the donation for months, your family’s been all excited, you’ve got through the treatment, you’ve had the collection, your eggs are fertilised and you know the outcome… and then what?

Women become egg donors out of empathy and compassion and the desire to make a positive difference in someone’s life. So much of our hearts goes into doing this, and the process is so intense for that short time, that when our part is over, sometimes it’s hard not to feel a little bit left behind.

This can be especially true if the couple is pregnant and moving on with their own lives into the joy of the family life they’ve longed for, and that we have helped to make possible. The focus moves away from treatment and on into an exciting new future for them.

Most couples who have egg donation have tried for years to have a family. Although some couples are happy to maintain contact with Altrui and their donor, most often they want to put all that pain behind them and quietly enjoy the pregnancy and their new family, to feel like a normal family after so long. Part of that can be loosening ties with everything concerned with their treatment, and keeping in touch less often.

This doesn’t mean that egg donors are forgotten or undervalued. In a sense, it’s a bit like when children leave home. When they move on to become independent it’s because you as a parent have done your job – now it’s their turn to take over. And donation can be like that too: donors do their essential and precious piece of work, meaning the parents can take it from there.

So what do you do with those feelings of being left out, or sadness, when it’s all over? Well, one way is to remember that this is what we’ve all been working towards. We want people to have their chance to get pregnant and when it works out it’s even better. So that ending is just the natural completion of the process.

The other is to remember that egg donors are not forgotten, either by the parents or by Altrui. You’ve done something to be proud of and that precious gift – and the feelings of pride and achievement that go with it – are with you for life.